09 Oct What to Do When Your Spouse Accuses You of Domestic Violence
Domestic violence is an incredibly serious crime with harsh penalties in the state of New York, and our laws are designed to protect victims who cannot protect themselves. But what happens when your spouse falsely accuses you of domestic violence for his or her own gain?
Angry Spouses and False Accusations of Domestic Violence
It’s not uncommon for an angry spouse—particularly in a marriage that’s already on the rocks—to accuse his or her partner of domestic violence. Domestic violence covers a huge range of offenses, including physical abuse (hitting, kicking, punching and other violent acts), stalking, neglect and even murder.
Because the penalties for domestic violence can include restraining orders that can keep you from seeing your children, some spouses make these false accusations in order to gain control of a relationship that seems to be careening out of control.
A domestic violence conviction can even land you in jail. If a judge believes your spouse’s claims, no matter how false they are, you could end up behind bars for a crime you didn’t commit.
What to Do if Your Spouse Falsely Accuses You of Domestic Violence
Before your spouse even has a chance to accuse you of domestic violence, it’s important that you know how to protect yourself from the possibility. If you and your spouse are in a tough situation, where a disagreement evolves into a full-blown argument, the best thing you can do is leave. Go to a friend’s, a family member’s or to the park; it doesn’t matter where you go, just leave so that you can protect yourself from false allegations.
If your spouse does accuse you of domestic violence, the best thing you can do is call an attorney right away. A domestic violence conviction will haunt you forever, and it’s best to prevent that from happening if it’s at all possible. Your lawyer will work hard to protect your rights under New York law and stop the false accusations before they balloon into something unthinkable.
This is a transcription of an interview with James Medows.